Why Am I Depressed?

Why Am I Depressed?

Asking “Why am I depressed?’ is perfectly reasonable. Everyone feels sadness, grief, and disappointment from time to time, but are they the same thing as depression? In my last article, I described depression and how it differs from the kind of sadness we occasionally face. It’s an important distinction because people in popular culture often use the terms interchangeably. How you feel about yourself and your experiences is important. Feelings of sadness might not technically be depression, but they still matter. Honesty requires courage, and it takes courage to share your feelings. Doing so helps you walk through the doorway to understanding and help.

 “Depression is defined as persistent sadness and a lack of interest or pleasure in previously rewarding or enjoyable activities.“

According to the World Health Organization,  “Depression is defined as persistent sadness and a lack of interest or pleasure in previously rewarding or enjoyable activities.” As you research, you might see the term “Major Depressive Disorder,” but don’t let it frighten you. You will also find “Minor Depression.” The difference between the two is the intensity and number of symptoms. There are also other types of depression (more about this later). The most important thing to remember if you or someone you love is depressed is to break the silence and talk to your doctor and counselor.

Why Am I Depressed? Is It My Fault?

When a person is depressed, it is common for them to ask, “Why am I depressed? Is it my fault?” It’s human nature to look for a cause and assign blame. At first, though, it is enough just to be able to admit, “I think I am depressed.” Doing so is a breakthrough and a first step in understanding what is happening. Learning the causes of someone’s depression is not a simple thing.  1 event might have made them aware of their feelings, but that event is rarely the primary or only cause. That is why counselors and doctors are so helpful. They help by asking important questions, listening carefully, and offering sound advice. In time, a positive and trusting relationship will develop. Soon you will be able to understand that the depression you feel is not your fault.

Why Am I Depressed? Are There Different Kinds of Depression?

Depression is not a 1-size-fits-all condition. The people at The National Institute of Health have answered that question. On their website is a brief but thorough list of the different types of depression, along with their description. As you read the information they have provided, it is important to remember that even though it can be complex and serious, all forms of depression are treatable. There are skilled and caring professionals who have made such treatment their life’s work.

Does Being Depressed Mean I’m Crazy?

The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) busts the myth that “People with depression aren’t ‘normal.” They explain that “Depression is way more common than people realize. Every day, people around us are struggling with depression, often silently. Many people believe that someone who is depressed is ‘crazy’ or ‘not normal.’ Society likes to throw around these types of labels, but I’d like to challenge us to define what ‘normal’ is. Having depression, or any mental illness, does not make you abnormal or any less of a person“ (Matarazzo, Mariah,  OCT. 28, 2019. “Here’s What People Get Wrong About Depression.”)

“Depression is one of the most treatable mental health conditions. Approximately 80% to 90% of people with depression who seek treatment eventually respond well to treatment” (Cleveland Clinic).

I remember the first time that I seriously sought treatment for depression. I was in my late 50’s and I had lived with recurrent depression most of my life. I tried the usual excuses for avoiding treatment. I told myself, I just needed to be stronger! I’m a Christian, a pastor, I’ll just pray and memorize more Bible verses.  I bargained and argued with God. But like Jacob, who wrestled with the Lord’s angel, I also walked on with my limp. I was certain that no one would notice. But they did, and to my surprise, they cared. Many of them loved and accepted me. Of course, there was the occasional person who was wrestling with his own issues but found it’s easier to point out mine. Don’t worry about him; I didn’t!

In Conclusion

You and I are precious and valuable. We are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and our Heavenly Father adores us. Although it was at times difficult, I decided to continue with counseling. I am 70 years old now and I am so glad that I made that decision. Sure, there have been some rough seas, but my loving family, my therapist, and my physician have been right beside me. I  have also found comfort in God’s grace. I know that I will make it and I believe you will too. If you are feeling depressed, you are welcome to reach out to me at any time. If you wish to email me, my address is rkennethshelton@protonmail.com. Your communication is encrypted and private.

Disclaimer: Thank you for reading The Gathering Place. I have served as a pastor and bishop of Christian churches for 37 years, however, I do not claim to be a licensed counselor, medical doctor, or psychologist. Instead, I am a researcher, a writer, and a caring friend who desires to lend a hand to the hurting and to lighten their load.